I Made a Life List

Okay, so first things first... wtf is a life list? A life list is a list of goals, dreams, and aspirations for the near future. Similar to a bucket list, it is a list of things to accomplish in your lifetime. Different from a bucket list, it puts the emphasis on your life. These are things to actively pursue NOW. These are things that you don't wait around to accomplish. You make active steps towards it. 

The idea for my life list came from my friend Drew who hosts the Defining Audacity Radio Show. I spent a few days with this guy back in April and he blew my mind. He's so awesome. Most importantly, he inspired me to make a life list and start crossing off items ASAP. 

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Here's my LIFE LIST of things to accomplish in the next 5 years. *Stuff with an X is completed!

1. Organize a speaking event through Ignite

(X) 2. Produce/Direct my own full-length dance show

3. Visit the Mediterranean 

4. Hug a redwood tree

5. Make a snowman with Alex

6. Hike to the hidden resort ruins

7. Stand behind a waterfall

8. Learn to start a fire and keep it burning

9. Work on a pottery wheel

10. Take an art class

11. Attend a wellness conference

12. Go to the opera

13. See Cirque Du Soleil

(X) 14. Do the 36 questions to love with Alex

15. Make my own cheese

16. Make my own pasta

17. Help someone cross something off of their life list

18. Visit Australia

19. Create a source of passive income

20. Get reiki

21. Get my fortune read

22. Take a capoeira class

23. Stay in a fancy hotel for a whole week

24. Take a segway tour

25. Learn fire fans

26. Travel outside the US

27. Teach Alex how to cook a meal from scratch

28. Go live on FB 

29. Travel alone

30. Make my own pretzels

31. Set up a coffee date with a Facebook acquaintance

32. Host a fancy dinner and make everything from scratch

33. Grow a garden

(X) 34. Buy a house

 

I'll keep adding! What's on your LiFE LiST?

WHY, WHY, WHY

WHY do you do what you do?

A lot of times we know WHAT we do and HOW we do it, but we don’t always think about our WHY. This week I was challenged to figure out my WHY and I want to share it because it’s something that is important to me. 

 

The INSPIRATION: 

My WHY:

I believe that all humans deserve to live healthy, confident, purposeful, and powerful lives, both physically and mentally, regardless of age, ability, or experience.

My WHAT:

I own an arts company that offers dance and fitness classes,  performances, and artist development workshops. I run coaching sessions for mindful movement.

My HOW:

I take my movement workshops into schools and programs for children to promote anti-bullying, I bring dance to teens with special needs to keep them active, compassionate, and creative, I teach beginning-level dance classes for adults to show them that it’s never too late to start dancing, I offer my movement program as a public class for adults to show people that they CAN love themselves unconditionally, and I choreograph, perform, and direct dance performances to provide entertainment with a purpose.

 

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Wanna know more about what I do? 
I'm the GirlBoss of this arts organization: Ignite Collaborative
I'm the creator and facilitator of this mindful movement program: Jubilee Restorative Movement
 

How to Make a Vision Board That Works

I assume you've heard of a vision board, but if you haven't...

A vision board is a visual aid for manifesting the future you want.

Vision board parties start popping up every January. It's the time to manifest and create your new year ahead. It makes sense. 

What doesn't make sense to me, however, is why the boards created at these parties usually end up looking sloppily thrown together. If this is what you want to create for your life, shouldn't you put a little more work into it's creation? In order for a vision board to be most effective at helping you achieve your goals, you need to see it everyday. You need to hang it in your home. 

Here's how to make a vision board that you'll want to look at everyday....

 

Things You Need:

Poster Board

Markers

Gluestick

Scissors

Old Magazines

 

What To Do:

1. Using a marker, draw a curvy, squiggly line on your poster. (It doesn't have to be just like mine! Make it your own.)

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2. Draw a zig zag line on your poster. (Again, it doesn't have to be just like mine! Make it your own.)

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3. Draw a vertical line on your poster. (You get it. Don't copy mine if you don't want to.)

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4. Draw a horizontal line. 

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5. Randomly number the spaces 1-5.

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6. Now it's time to start decorating! Use markers, magazines, photos, WHATEVER! When you fill up a space, you can use markers to decorate the negative space and make it look more colorful.

 Each numbered space is reserved for the following categories:

1 - Strengths. What makes you strong? What do you do well? What makes you, YOU?
 
2 - Goals & Wants. What do you want to bring into your life this year? Money? Travel? a Home? Friends? Love? Represent it here. 
 
3 - Support System. Use this space for things that remind you of your support system. Friends, family, loved ones. This is space to remind yourself of the people who inspire you and encourage you. 
 
4 - Theme. Take a look at your number 2 space. What things do you want? What ties them together? The theme for your year is the greater intention. All of the things you want and work towards will go back to this theme. Maybe you want abundance, or kindness, or security. For me, I just want more time to do what I love.
 
5 - Letter of Encouragement. Write yourself a letter. It can be as long or as short as you'd like. Give yourself a reason to go after your goals. Give yourself some encouragement for those days when you feel like nothing is working. 
 
EXTRA SPACES-  You may end up with some open spaces. That's great! You have options. You could use those spaces to reiterate your main goals, provide extra inspiration for yourself, or swap boards with a friend and have a friend fill in that space for you with encouragement and reminders! 
 

Here's my finished board! 

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I'd love to see what you create!

 

P.S. If you want to be successful, you have to see your board everyday. No excuses. That means hanging it up where you can see it. A great option is to put it in your closet! You have to get dressed everyday (well, you don't HAVE to) so you're bound to see it. 

 

 

Things to Do in the Midwest in the Dead of Winter

I just got back from a week-long trip through the midwest. Yes, I froze. My Arizona blood was definitely confused by the negative degree temperatures. It was my first time experiencing real cold. I mean, I've been to Flagstaff, but it's like 30 degrees there. It's cold, but not COLD. One day in Illinois, the HIGH was -17. I'm serious. 

Despite the cold, I had a great time exploring some small towns and some larger ones in Illinois, Indiana, and Kentucky. I went on the trip as a groupie for my boyfriend's band, which meant I had a lot of time to explore on my own while he was in rehearsals. We went from Rock Island, IL to Bloomington, IN to Louisville, KY and hit some smaller stops along the way.

 

Here's a list of things to do in the Midwest:

 

First Stop: Rock Island, IL

1. Quad City Botanical Center

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This place was a gem. Truly. I went there on New Year's Eve when nothing besides the restaurant in the hotel lobby was open. It was two miles away from my hotel and it was a high of -17 degrees, but I was desperate for something to do, so I walked the two miles in the cold to the center. When I got there, the receptionist thought I was lost! She said they never get visitors in winter and she was so excited when I said I was there to see the botanical garden! I explored the indoor garden for about an hour. It features different exotic plants that I'd never heard of and you are encouraged to sniff the leaves and even try a bite of a papaya! I'd definitely recommend this place. 

 

2. RozzTox Coffee

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This place has great coffee and tea. They also have sandwiches, but I didn't try one of those. They hold small, local concerts and other events. Check it out! 

 

3. Davenport Sky Bridge

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Just across the river from Rock Island is the Davenport Sky Bridge. It's in Iowa! This bridge is a covered pedestrian bridge that extends over the streets and all the way to the water's edge. We went in the morning and it was nice to watch the sun come up over the river. We actually spent a lot of time here just walking and talking and looking at the city from a new point-of-view. It's free, so that's a nice bonus, too. Also, if you go at night, it's has cool lights. We could only go in the morning because we had to head to Indiana, but I'm still so glad we made the stop. 

 

Second Stop: Casey, IL

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Casey, Illinois is a strange little town right off the highway that really doesn't have a ton to do except run down Main Street and find big things. The town is known for being the home of the world's largest rocking chair, but it has a lot more than that. Casey is the home to many record-breaking large items, as well as some not record-breaking, but still huge, items. You can run around town taking pictures with the items, and many of them even work! For example, you can actually ring the world's largest wind chimes. It's a super fun town and a great place to stop for an hour or so to take a break from driving. 

 

Third Stop: Bloomington, IN

 

1. Downtown & Indiana University Bloomington

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I had a great time wandering the streets of downtown Bloomington. I started at the main entrance to the university, often called the Sample Gates. I wandered the university which has great architecture, public art museums, walking trails through the trees, and even the largest anatomically correct statue of a brain! (Apparently I like large things.) The shops around town are mostly local, handmade shops and boutiques. I found a great jacket at Cactus Flower, a vintage clothing boutique, but then realized I had no extra space to get it home, so I didn't buy it. I also found some great candles with unique scents at Gather. After shopping all day, I grabbed some tea and a scone at Cup & Kettle, a cute little tea shop! 

 

2. WonderLab

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This science museum looked like it would be totally aimed at toddlers, but we were desperate for something to do, so we checked it out. We were so wrong. This museum was possibly my favorite place of the whole trip! We learned a ton at all of their exhibits and played like kids. Everything is super hands-on and the people that work there are so friendly and helpful. We played at the robot building station for almost an hour! 

 

Fourth Stop: Louisville, KY

 

1. Museums on Main Street

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We only had one day to explore downtown Louisville, so we opted for hitting the museums on Main Street! This pass was so helpful because it gave us entry into six of the biggest attractions.

-Frazier History Museum: Amazingly fascinating exhibits, and that's saying something because I'm not a history fan. Everything was better than I expected here. 
-Louisville Slugger Factory: It was cool to see how the bats are made, and we even got to see a famous ball player's bat in the process of creation.
-Ali Center: It was closed. Boo.
-Kentucky Science Center: AWFUL. Honestly the worst place I've ever been. 90% of the exhibits were broken and rather than having information about actual science, they only had signs that said "Do Science." Serious. It was bad. 
-Evan Williams Bourbon Experience: Okay, this was super fun. We walked from the early days of Kentucky through the prohibition era and into a 70's bar. The tour ended with a tasting of four of their best bourbons.  
-Peerless Distilling Co: We didn't make it to this one. We were running short on time and decided to only do one distillery tour. If you go, let me know how it is!

 

2. Schimpff's Confectionery & Candy Museum

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This place is a must. I got a rat made of white chocolate. 

 

I had so much fun, even though it was cold AF. Can't wait to visit again, but maybe in the summer next time!

 

2018 is HERE! New Resolutions and 2017 Wrap-Up

Okay, so it's 2018.

Pow. Just like that. I'm so ready for it. I just have a feeling this will be my year. I've felt this for a long time, too. It's like I've always known that 27-28 years old would be bomb. I'm also pretty sure 34 will be bomb, but I'm not quite there yet. Anyway, 2018 is happening and I'm ready. 

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Let's take a look back at 2017 though...

Last year, rather than setting specific actions for my resolutions, I set an intention for the year. My intention was ABUNDANCE. I wanted abundance in my career. I wanted abundance in my social group. 

Well, I got it. I spent the last year working my tail off for my jobs. I switched paths a lot, but eventually figured it out and feel confident in what I do, now. I worked long hours with no pay on projects for Ignite. I spent every second of spare time on work. You probably see where this is going...

I need a break. I'm burning out. Hence the reason for my 2018 resolutions:

1. Read one book per month

2. Travel once per month

3. Cook my way through my Pinterest board

4 Spend more time outdoors

 

I need time for myself. Time for me to learn and grow as an individual. So, this year, my focus is on joy and flow.

 

I will find my joy and flow alongside it. 

 

I have a method for creating my resolutions. Here it is...

 

Step 1: Get a journal and some pens.

Get nice ones. This matters. Psychology tells us that perception is possibly the most important part of completing goals and reaching our dreams. Treat your goals like they are valuable (BECAUSE THEY ARE) and your brain will be more focused on them. If we place just as much value in the goal-setting process as we do in the actual achievement of the goal, we are more likely to succeed. So, get nice pens. Get nice paper. You deserve it. 

 

Step 2: Write down what you want. 

Make it as specific or as broad as you'd like. We will be simplifying in the next step. 

 

Step 3: For each of the "wants," ask yourself "What can I DO to make this happen? What ACTION will I take?"

Statistically, only a small percentage of people who make new year's resolutions actually keep them. I think that's because people focus on the end goal more than the ACTIONS involved in completing the goal. For example, if you want to lose weight, don't tell yourself your resolution is "to lose weight." Instead, your resolutions may be things like "Only eat fast food once per week," "Attend 4 exercise classes each week," or "Stay under my calorie limit every day." Giving yourself an ACTION to DO is easier to enforce and track than judging yourself based on the idealized end goal. 

 

Step 4: GTFO and start DOING it. 

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A Cozy Winter Tea

I love winter. I live in Phoenix, AZ, so I guess I don't get a "real" winter, but I love it all the same. I love the colder weather, I love the holiday decor, I love wearing layers and layers of clothing (for those times when I get out of Phoenix and head somewhere colder than 75 degrees). I love warm drinks. 

Here's a short and sweet post with one of my favorite recipes for winter!

 

Cinnamon Coconut Turmeric Latte  Brewed Cinnamon Tea (I like the peppermint cinnamon from Trader Joe's!)  1 TSP Turmeric  1 TSP Black Pepper  1 TBL Coconut Oil  1/4 C Coconut Milk  Enjoy! 

Cinnamon Coconut Turmeric Latte

Brewed Cinnamon Tea (I like the peppermint cinnamon from Trader Joe's!)

1 TSP Turmeric

1 TSP Black Pepper

1 TBL Coconut Oil

1/4 C Coconut Milk

Enjoy! 

 

Cinnamon Coconut Turmeric Latte

Brewed Cinnamon Tea (I like the peppermint cinnamon tea bags from Trader Joe's!)

1 TSP Turmeric

1 TSP Black Pepper

1 TBL Coconut Oil

1/4 C Coconut Milk

*Combine all in a mug and mix with a milk frother. 

Enjoy! 

Ch-Ch-Ch-Changing

It's been a busy last few months. I've been feeling kind of down and needed some time to just be with myself. I've been working a lot, but all of the work feels like money work and not passion work. I'm drained. 

It's finally my favorite time of year. November and December are filled with birthdays and holidays and Snow Queen performances and although it's helping to boost my spirits a bit, it still feels different this year. I feel like the weight of adulting is hitting me hard. I feel trapped and slow, like i'm running through waist-deep water. 

I have been thinking a lot about what has changed and what is missing from my life right now. Although I am making more money, and that reduces a lot of stress, I am not making time for myself to do what I love. I keep skipping yoga. I've only been for a bike ride once. 

I need to make a change and get my flow back. I need to prioritize my freedom and my creativity. Here's what is important to me and what I will focus on going forward. These are my new year resolutions, but I'm starting them now. There's no reason to wait until the new year. 

 

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1. Read more.

A few years ago I made it my goal to read a book a month and it was bomb.com. I want to do that again. I've been reading the same book since August, and I have decided I will finish it this month and get back on track with reading. 

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2. More yoga.

I am buying a class pass for my fav yoga studios and the goal is to go twice a week. I want to be stronger. I want to be calmer. Yoga FTW.

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3. Cook more.

I really enjoy cooking. I like that when I'm cooking it's hard to multitask. I am focused and it slows me down. I have a whole Pinterest board of recipes I want to try, and I just got the Oh She Glows! Cookbook, so my goal is to make a new recipe every week. I don't cook at home very often, so once a week for a new recipe is a good goal for me. 

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4. More walks.

I read this article one time about how we focus so much of our social time on eating, but we should go for more walks. I like that. As a dance therapist, I know that movement directly affects your brain. Walking gets your brain moving and increases communication skills, patience, creativity, and is just generally good for keeping your brain alive. 

 



I want to end this little ditty with the things I already do that I want to continue. The things that excite me and keep me flowing. 

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1. Drink tea.

I love tea. I love collecting different kinds. I love creating a perfect brew. More tea. Always.

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2. Travel

I have been lucky to travel quite a bit in the last six months. I've never been one to take trips, but lately I've had a good mix of business and pleasure travel and I really want to keep it up. My adventurous, Sagittarius spirit needs it.

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3. Dance

I've been able to perform a lot and create a lot. I need to keep it up. Dance is my first love and I sometimes take it for granted. 

 


What are your goals? What do you want to add or subtract?

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Why I Make My Bed Everyday, Why You Should Too, and How to Create the Perfect Bed

This is a persuasive post about making your bed in the morning, right after you get up. I strongly believe in the power of tucked bed corners, and I believe that at the end of this post, you will too. 

I used to hate making my bed. I just didn't see the point. I mean, why would I waste my time making my bed when my room was going to go unseen all day and then I'd just sleep in my bed again and screw it up? As a kid, my mom never asked me to make my bed unless we had company coming over, and even then, I didn't even do it. I was steadfast in my opinion that making my bed was a waste of time until about two years ago. THAT'S WHEN IT ALL CHANGED. HOLYYYYYYY

Okay so I don't really know why I decided to start making my bed exactly, but it probably had something to do with the fact that I had a roommate who was somewhat cluttered and I wanted to prove that I was the neat one. So, I'd keep my room clean and my bed made as like a weird competitive thing. The joke is on me though, because I ended up sleeping better, being more successful, and also just generally liking my bedroom more. 

I've compiled a list of reasons why I think you should be making your bed. Please enjoy. 

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1. It feels like resort-style living every time you enter your bedroom. Seriously. It feels so fancy to have a bed all pretty and perfect. Who doesn't want to feel like they are on vacation every day of their life? You are a ~*KwEeN*~/#KING# and you deserve to feel pampered. Sure, you are doing the pampering, but when you pamper yourself by making your bed in the morning, by the time you get home in the evening you will forget how annoying it was to make your bed and you'll be able to just bask in the comfort of your self-made bedroom oasis. 

2. Making your bed in the morning keeps your sheets clean and unexposed to whatever bullshit happens when you're not home. Maybe you have animals that climb on your bed, maybe theres a cricket in your room and it climbs into your bed, maybe it's the middle of the dust bowl and dirt literally just seeps through your windows. I don't know your situation, but I do know that when you make your bed, at least your sheets will stay clean. (Bonus tip: Shower before bed. That way, you're always getting into bed with a clean bod.)

3. When you get home after a long day, you can just flop down on top of your bed and rest without having to deal with weird lumps or getting tangled in the sheets. I love laying on my bed with a throw blanket reading a book. (Bonus tip: Have a throw blanket on your bed for times when you just want to read a book or rest for a little while but don't want to be all the way under the sheets.) 

Proof:

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4. The physical action of peeling back the sheet and crawling into bed at night is symbolic of turning the page and closing the chapter on that day. Likewise, opening the sheets in the morning and closing them up again is symbolic of the start of the day. Rituals are really trendy right now, and this is pretty ritualistic so you should do it. Having a morning ritual helps you prepare and energize for the day. Having a bedtime ritual is a way of training your brain to decompress and prepare for sleep. Like Pavlov's dogs salivating at the sound of a bell, your brain will start to get sleepy when you start your bedtime ritual each night, and will start to wake up as you start your morning ritual. That stability in your life will help you. There's science behind it but IDGAF about finding proof. So just trust me, or google it yourself. 

5. It feels good to start your day by completing a task. We all have a daily to-do list. Sure, making your bed is one more thing to add to that list, but it also feels so good to be able to cross something off of the list. So, make it easy on yourself and start each day by completing your first task - Make Your Bed. Completing a task first thing in the morning sets you up for a day of progress. Baby steps are the way to lasting change, and making your bed is a baby step towards creating a more organized inner self. Namaste. 


Okay, so now that you've decided to try making your bed every morning, here's my recipe for the perfect bed:

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Comfy Mattress 

This is the basic need for your bed, obviously. It's so important though. Mattresses are expensive, but invest in a good one that makes you excited to snuggle up at night. Your mental state will thank you when it finally gets enough restful sleep. I have the YogaBed and I'm obsessed. They didn't pay me to say that, I just like it. It's comparable in price to other bed-in-a-box ideas, and I love that it comes with two pillows and has a zip-off mattress cover. Also, apparently they have a sale RN? So go buy one. 

Soft Sheets

Okay but really, sheets make a difference. Don't buy the cheap ones at Target. Splurge for the discounted $40 ones at Ross, at least. You have to put your body on them, so make them nice. You deserve nice sheets. 

Bedspread

I am a big fan of simple, clean bedspreads. That way, I can easily add new throw blankets and sheets to make my bed unique. It's a lot more cost effective to change small things like bed accessories than it is to change the bed spread. So, I have a few different solid color quilts and one white duvet. Simple. Clean. Into it. 

Pillows

Replace your damn pillows. Seriously. They get filled with dust and then you lay on it and breathe it in all night. Ummmm NO THANKS. I replace my pillows every year or so. I don't spend a shit-ton of money on pillows. Target has good ones for a good price. 

Decorative Pillows

Get a few fun pillows to throw on your bed. Not only do they make it look more inviting, but they also work really well for adjusting your back and shoulders when you're reading in bed and just need an extra boost somewhere.

Throw Blanket

Throw blankets are fun to buy so there's literally no excuse to not have three of them. However, if you don't have one yet, you only need to look at three details when purchasing a blanket. 
1. Size - Is it big enough to cover you comfortably? You don't want to have to pull your legs into a weird position just to be underneath the blanket. Get one that is at least as long as you are. 
2. Softness- Get a soft blanket. Obviously. 
3. Care Instructions- You want to be able to wash your blanket without destroying it. Get something you can just throw in the washing machine. 

Bed Tray

Not like a pee bowl. I think it's important to have a tray on your bed where you can keep your current read, your favorite linen spray, a cup of tea, etc. Plus, it looks nice and ties things together. 
 
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Okay, now go make your bed!

You're Capable. End of Story.

I had a great weekend. Truly. I spent time with friends and family, got to dance, and sing, and led my favorite practice class, Jubilee Restorative Movement. Here I am on Sunday afternoon, though, feeling really down and fighting off some pretty negative emotions. 

We've all been there... that dark hole in your brain that tells you you're not good enough, you're not pretty enough, you're not thin enough, you're not thicc enough. Even though I know this self-talk is normal, it still makes me feel like I am doing the wrong things in my life. How can I be leading these therapeutic Jubilee classes if I can't even take care of my own emotions? Who tf do I think I am?

In class, I talk about how our thoughts and actions affect our bodies. Every part of our physical body, from our muscles to our cells, is affected by our thoughts and experiences. All of the events that make us who we are are literally stored in our cells and they affect our physical ability to move through the world on a daily basis. In my most recent class, I specifically focused on reducing anxiety and negative self-talk to open up our hearts to the world. We spent two hours exploring what it means to open, identifying our negative self-talk patterns, and releasing some of that built-up frustration and negativity. We had tears, and laughter, and even a full-on (semi-controlled) temper tantrum. We spent time revealing the things we tell ourselves... "I'm not good enough." "It's too late." "You're not smart." "You're ugly." Seeing these beautiful humans in front of me write these awful things broke my heart. It broke my heart because I see the opposite in them. It broke my heart because I tell myself the same things. I would never in a million years agree with my friends as they said those things about themselves, so why do I think it's okay to say it to myself? Why do I think it's true for me? 

We worked to release and reframe our minds and ended the lesson with some positive affirmations to help us dry our tears and find a new sense of community and support. I felt great after class and was so encouraged by the positive feedback I got from my students. I went home and changed my clothes and immediately ripped my favorite romper because my butt is too big. Too big. Too fat. Too ugly. I'm not good enough. I'm never going to be good enough. I can't do anything right. This is why I'm not happy. Who the hell do I think I am trying to teach others how to live fully when I have so many fucked up issues? I have no right to help people when I do this to myself. I'm failing at my own lesson. I'm not good enough. I'm stupid. I shouldn't even try to go after my goals. 

Then I stopped. 

I made a conscious decision to find the reality underneath the anxiety. I peeled back the layers of shit one by one and slowly saw a glimmer of who I really am buried underneath. That glimmer of my true self, the Rosy who is kind, and patient, and creative, and resourceful. The Rosy who comes out in moments of true peace. I saw her for a moment. That moment of finding Me reminded me of something so important. It reminded me that I am human. I am learning. I am growing. I consciously chose to apologize to myself for the hurtful words. I chose to love myself in that moment. In the moment when I felt so undeserving of love, I chose to love myself. 

I'm definitely not an expert on this whole "being a successful human" thing, but I think choosing to love yourself in the good and the bad moments is a really big part of doing it right. 

I let out some tears, and then I sat down and I wrote. I wrote this, I wrote an Instagram post, I wrote a text to my BFF. I remembered that my experience makes me more capable of teaching others. It makes me relate, it makes me more compassionate, it makes me kind. I don't necessarily welcome the negativity in my life, but I do see a way to use it for good. I can teach. I can do this.

You can do this.  

The Sweetest Anniversary Photoshoot

I've been friends with Miranda for about 4 years and have been hearing about Dylan for most of that time. Just like Miranda, he is kind, funny, and tall. They are the perfect match.

Dylan and Miranda recently celebrated their three year anniversary and asked me to take some photos of them at the Scottsdale Museum of Contemporary Art and I couldn't say no. They were so fun to shoot and I wish them all the years of hap(penis).

Here are some of my favorite shots from our photoshoot!

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and my personal favorite....

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Want your photos taken? Contact me! Let's work together!

My Boston Trip! 8 Things To Hit and Miss in Boston

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Click here for a link to a recipe for spaghetti for when you need to just emotionally eat some carbs

I've been telling myself for weeks that I need to write. I say it to myself almost daily and for some reason I feel like something is holding me back. I've been hit hard by losing some of my work. In my soul, it feels like a blessing because it allows me the opportunity to replace those lost jobs with something better, something more aligned with who I am and what I see myself doing long-term. In the reality sense though, I am spending more money than I'm bringing in and that's not good. I am mentally and physically drained. I am throwing all of my energy into building my career with my extra time, but unfortunately it's a slow and not-so-steady climb to where I want to be. Contract work is stressful. Period. It is so hard to rely on somebody else for your work. Somebody whose job does not change if they bring you in or not, so they have no incentive other than the goodness of their hearts, which if we're being honest isn't enough. I've been ghosted by so many people, too. Like 100% ghosted. They said they loved my program and couldn't wait to start. They agreed upon a price. Then they stop communicating entirely when it's time to actually set a plan in motion. Calls, emails, texts, personal visits. Doesn't matter. These people hide. Like, what am I doing wrong? PLZ HELP. For real though, like actually. I need help. I need to know how to sell myself and my program to organizations. I need to know how to convince them that what I do is worth a dollar amount and not just another hole in my volunteer work punchcard. I spent a lot of money to go to school for this. I spent a lot of time to perfect my artistry. I've spent A HELL OF A LOT OF TIME figuring out how to combine the two together and create a program that is (IMO) a lot better than others that are kind of like mine. 

Anyway, this is the best I've come up with for a post. Enjoy this nice recipe I made this week and please don't stop following me yet. 

Is this too pitiful? DGAF. Also, I want to note that I almost hashtagged this #itshardbeing27. I'm not even 27 yet. I'm only about a quarter of the way through 26. FUCK. 

ONE POT VEGETARIAN SPAGHETTI THAT IS GOOD FOR WHEN YOU'RE BUSY AF AND ALSO NEED EMOTIONAL CARBS

My GD Favorite Things - Feb 2017

I haven't written in a while, mostly because i've been busy hustlin'. On my grind. Getting paper. Okay, not tons of paper yet, but I'm working on it. At the start of the new year, I lost three jobs equaling about half of my income. Not cool. I felt into my intuition about it and always knew it was for the best and that new things would come. I told myself that I wouldn't just take a job for money.

I have the opportunity to use this experience as a way to truly create my career. I can shed one mediocre job for another that is more fitting for me. I can create my own life. 


So, here's how it's going....

I recently accepted a position as the department head of movement and dance at a local acting academy. 

I am leaving in about ten minutes for a meeting with a community center looking for monthly special needs Jubilee classes. 

I was asked to submit a proposal for social media work for a national organization. (I find out if I get the job on or around February 13th! So jam me some + vibes, plz.)

 

Anyway, I've been on my grind hella lately, and these are the things keeping me going. Enjoy, yo. 

 

1. THIS BOOK. YES. 

I have always admired Sophia Amoruso. I listen to her Girlboss Radio podcast religiously, eye her style on Nastygal, and just daydream about being her BFF. This book is awesome and inspirational and cool and all of the things. Bonus: It is pretty and makes a great coffee table book. 

 

 


2. All natural stress relief. Obviously. I honestly love all of the Bach Flower Essence products, but this one has been in heavy use lately.  


3. THIS recipe is BOMB. It thrills me because I typically already have all of these ingredients on hand. 


4. Bloguettes. They are a local group of women working to make freelancing easier for us. BOOM. Love it. Check out their Freelancer's Toolkit


5. I just got a Hydroflask and daayyyuummm I understand the hype. This puppy keeps my water ice cold all day, even after sitting in a hot AZ car. 10/10. Give me more. 


k, bai family. ttys

Happy Holidays! (COOKIE RECIPE!)

Happy Holidays!  

 

I haven't been very good about upkeep for the blog lately because during the winter I dance in a production called The Snow Queen. We do 2+ shows a day for three weeks. Every single day. It wipes me out, but it's my favorite thing each year.  Also, I thought I posted this two weeks ago, but apparently It's been sitting in my drafts. Soooo.... I'm just going to post it now and we can all pretend that it's still relevant, mostly because it buys me some time before my real post next week. Capiche? 

Now that SQ is over, I have a week to get all of my shit together for Christmas. A few years ago, my grandmother made a rule that all gifts exchanged must be something to eat or drink. I think it was an effort to keep materialism at bay. So, I create a box of goodies for my grandparents each Christmas according to her rule. Here's what is going in the box this year:

 

A bottle of wine

A jar of homemade pesto (recipe coming soon) 

A jar of homemade vegetable stock (Recipe HERE)

A plate of THESE cookies

A box of candy canes

 

 

What is your go-to Christmas gift? 

 

 

 

 

My GD Favorite Things- November

How is it already the end of November?! I feel like the last couple of months have flown by and all of my goals are left unmet. I've been feeling down for a while and haven't been taking care of myself as well as I could. It's time to get my butt in shape so I can start the new year healthy and happy. What are your end of the year goals?

 

 

1. I can't stop listening to this album. "Set on Fire" is my JAM.

 


2. I'm really enjoying the 73 Questions series. Watch this one with Emma Stone and then get sucked into the list of other videos. 



 

 

3. This overnight face mask is incredible. My skin has been feeling starved for a while (my whole life) and this helps me to look bright and glowy. 10/10.


4. "But the truth remains that this home resides much closer than what first appears. This home waits within you." Nabalo's musings fuel my soul. 


5. I really love what Stacy London has to say about fashion and aging. Read this

 

 

6. This SNL skit makes me giggle for days. I cannot stop watching it. 

7. I got all of the pictures from this photoshoot and I couldn't be happier. 

8. I just discovered this blog and it's so cute. 

9. HAVE YOU SEEN THIS GYM'S TAKE ON THE MANNEQUIN CHALLENGE? OMG. 

 

 

10. After countless parties with melty ice, I finally purchased an ice bucket. This is the one I bought and I am pleased. I feel like an adult.